But Dr. Reyes didn’t flinch. Instead, she opened with: “Gia, tell me about your favorite lullaby.”

Family therapy didn’t make me stop loving goth. It made me stop using goth as a wall. My kids don’t need a ‘goth mommy.’ They need a mommy who happens to love black.

So here is the final takeaway for every Gia, every goth parent, every exhausted mother in a band tee: Your best goodnight doesn’t require you to become beige. It only requires you to become present .